How to Train a Stubborn Dog Who Won’t Listen

Some dogs seem like they were born to test your patience. You say "sit", and they spin in circles. You call them inside, and they sprint in the opposite direction.

The good news? Your dog isn’t broken, defiant, or beyond help. In most cases, a "stubborn" dog is a confused one. At Splendid K9, we believe that behaviour is communication, and when your dog "won't listen," it's usually because they haven't been taught how in a way that makes sense to them.

Let’s break it down with 10 simple tips that can make a big difference. There are no complicated training terms, just easy things you can start doing today.

1. Find What Truly Motivates Your Dog

Just like people, dogs have favourites. Some love cheese. Others love toys. Some just want cuddles. Find the one thing your dog LOVES most, and use that as their reward. Training becomes a lot easier when the reward is something they’re excited about.

2. Start With Simple Wins

Start with easy commands like “Sit” or “Down.” Why? Because they’re quick to teach, and every success boosts your dog’s confidence. They learn, "If I do what my human asks, I get something awesome!"

3. Set Them Up for Success

Don’t try to train your dog at the park or in the middle of a busy street. Start somewhere quiet, like your living room. Remove distractions (TV, toys, other pets), so they can focus. Once they get good in a quiet place, then try in harder spots.

4. Patience Is a Superpower

Training takes time. Sometimes weeks. Sometimes months. If you feel frustrated, your dog feels it too. Stay calm. Keep sessions short (5–10 minutes is enough). End on a win. And remember: baby steps are still steps.

5. Get the Whole Family On Board

Your dog needs clear rules. If one person says “no jumping” and another lets them jump for hugs, your dog gets confused. Sit down with your family, agree on the rules, and make sure everyone is doing the same thing.

6. Know When to Take a Step Back

If your dog seems lost, go back to something easier. Let them win again. For example, if they can’t stay calm when the door opens, try rewarding them just for staying seated while you stand near the door. Build from there.

7. Celebrate the Big Moments

When your dog does something hard (like coming when called at the park), throw a mini-party! Give them extra treats, play with their favourite toy, and give lots of praise. These "jackpot" moments help them know they did something really amazing.

8. Practice in Real-Life Situations

Dogs need practice in the places where they’ll need the skills. Start in your house, then try the yard, then the street, then the dog park. Take it slow. Don’t jump ahead. Let your dog build confidence step by step.

9. Meet Their Needs First

A bored, under-exercised dog doesn’t want to listen. Make sure they’re getting enough walks, playtime, and things to chew or do when you’re busy. A tired dog is usually a better listener.

10. Don’t Let Them Train You

If your dog barks, whines, or pulls to get what they want and you give in, they’re training you! Instead, wait for calm behaviour before giving them what they want (like a treat, toy, or attention). Teach them that good things come to dogs who wait politely.

Final Thoughts

Your dog isn’t trying to be difficult; they’re just trying to figure out how the world works. Training them with kindness, clarity, and consistency will help them feel safe and confident.

At Splendid K9, we believe every dog can learn and every dog parent deserves support. If you ever feel stuck, we’re here for you.